Do you ever stop and think about all the things that you’ve learned over the last year? Especially as a wife and mother, I look at what I thought I knew last year and I chuckle to myself because I had much to learn. And I still do! The truth is, no matter what stage we are in, God has an incredible amount of knowledge and wisdom waiting for us should we choose to seek it.
Many of you know that in about a month’s time my little family and I will be going to Thailand for six months to assist the Williams family with their ministry. I have a whole new appreciation for our missionaries and their wives as I strategically plan what we should put in six suitcases that will best meet our needs while over there and as I try to tackle an incredibly long list of “things to do before we leave” with two little ones! As this opportunity comes closer I find myself feeling so unprepared because this is unknown territory for me. Making a home, preparing meals, and keeping life as normal as possible in such a foreign place is…well…foreign to me! Not to mention the specific ministry opportunities that will be available to us during our time there. But the truth is, God has blessed me with knowing many ladies who have been in this very same spot as I am in!
And while it’s true that I am surrounded by good examples, I find myself still struggling with seeking answers in the right places in every day life!
As a young mom with not many years of experience, I find myself running to Google so often! I’m pretty sure I’m not alone in this. With babies, cooking, house cleaning, etc. there are so many new things popping up every day! And the truth is, it can be humbling to ask for help or advice. Aren’t we supposed to have it all together? Aren’t we supposed to know what we are doing? And even if we don’t, shouldn’t it at least appear that way? It’s much easier to jump on Google during nap time and look up the pages and pages of thoughts and opinions the internet can dump into our lap. I’d like to suggest that nothing can replace the wisdom and care of godly ladies in our church who have gone before us to raise families for the Lord. What a wealth of knowledge we have right at our fingertips! So what can we do to encourage this “sharing of wealth”?
Young wives and moms…
1. Understand that nothing can replace God’s Word. So seek out some older ladies that are clearly living for the Lord or have used God’s Word when raising their own children.
2. Observe those around you. Maybe there are some older ladies you’ve never really taken the time to talk to. I understand! Life with children can make it difficult to see anything other than your toddler who is running on way too little sleep. But you will be a blessing to them and will in turn be blessed when you connect with these older ladies.
3. Make opportunities for good conversation. It’s difficult to do this at church. (See point #2. haha) It may take some creativity but find a way that you can talk one on one with an older godly lady. Get a babysitter if you have to! It’s worth the expense to gain godly wisdom.
“Experienced” wives and moms…
1. Remember back to when you were a young wife and mother. Do you remember the struggles? The discouragements that can come? The questions that you needed answering?
2. Take note of the young wives and mothers and pray.
3. Find a way to encourage a young wife and mother (See pt. 1! And remember what might have helped you be encouraged)
4. Offer friendship. This is the best foundation for offering guidance and wisdom.
God has put each member in a church body for a specific purpose! As women, we have such a unique ministry to each other and opportunities that the world will never understand. May we use it wisely and for, ultimately, God’s glory!
The aged women likewise, that they be in behavior as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.Titus 2:3-5
Alyssa, along with her husband Benjamin and her two children, are preparing to go to Northern Thailand as missionaries. Other than cuddling up with her toddlers and their favorite books, Alyssa enjoys music (playing and listening), baking, reading, and sharing what God is doing in her life. Read Alyssa’s salvation testimony here and read more about Alyssa’s every day life in Thailand here.