Visit a Mission Field
Acts 16:9 “And a vision appeared to Paul in the night; There stood a man of Macedonia, and prayed him, saying, Come over into Macedonia, and help us.”
The harvest is plenteous and the opportunity is ripe! These are the years of opportunity – opportunity to go, to experience, to serve. Marriage and children don’t ruin opportunity, but they do diminish it. Visiting a mission field as an adult could be a life-changing experience. It puts you in a position of service and self-denial. You are there to serve. It will have a great impact on how you view the world and the lost. It will increase your love for the Lord and others. It will even prepare you to be a wife and mother.
Evangelists around the world need a young woman’s help. They need fellowship, encouragement, and help with projects. You could help the family with their children and household chores. There are lost women on the mission field who need to hear the Good News of the Gospel. You could be the one to tell them! You could be the one to go and help. What better way to spend your days of “freedom” for the Lord?
Flip the Bill
Ephesians 6:2 “Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;) That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.”
Parents sacrifice a lot for their kids. The cost of your diapers alone could have put them in debt! :o) We could never pay our parents back for all the things they have provided for us – but we can honor them for their sacrifice.
A gift really isn’t much of a gift if it didn’t involve sacrifice. Whether you have much or little, you can give. We really have no clue how much things cost until we are the ones who solely must pay for them. What a blessing it is to not have parents who kick you out at 18! (or even charge you rent) As an adult, why not look for tangible ways to honor your parents. Next time you’re grocery shopping with mom, flip the bill. Next time you go out to eat, flip the bill. Maybe you’re short on cash…contribute to the family through acts of service. Not out of duty, but of honor.
Psalms 78:4 “We will not hide them from their children, shewing to the generation to come the praises of the LORD, and his strength, and his wonderful works that he hath done.”
One thing I wish I did more of while a single lady was teaching children. Only on Sundays was I around children, learning and interacting with them. Perhaps you have younger siblings and are around children a lot. If so, get involved in children’s ministries. Give the moms at church a break and avail yourself to serve them and their children. Even if you’re the youngest you can be involved in showing the next generation the praises, strength, and wonderful works of the Lord.
Moms don’t just need help at church – learning and watching other moms train and teach their children will provide invaluable wisdom you can use for years to come. A teacher must first learn the lesson before they can teach it. Teaching children will prepare you for your future roles as wife and mother.
Find a Mentor
Titus 2:3-5 “The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”
Life is full of lessons. We should be learning and looking for opportunities to grow. There will always be someone older to learn from. Your mother is your main source of learning how to be a godly young woman. But you would be wise to allow another woman, someone whom you respect, to give godly input and advice in your life. She should be a woman you know is actively seeking the Lord’s will in her own life. She shouldn’t be a close friend or sibling. She should be someone who has your well-being at interest. She should be an encouragement to you but not be afraid to show you areas to improve. She should be trust-worthy along with all the things Titus 2 speaks about. Having a spiritual mentor during these years will humble and mature you and may even help you discover God’s perfect will for your life.
Take a Bible Institute Class
2 Timothy 2:15 “Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.”
No longer are you being spoon-fed the Word of God by your parents and teachers. You’re a grown-up now and you must learn to spiritually feed yourself. There are several ways to do this: attend services regularly, fellowship with other believers (preferably more mature), and read, memorize, study and teach the Word of God. A lot of Christians are good at reading the Bible, but few actually study it. Bible Institute is a wonderful way to study God’s Word – and your single years are the perfect time to do it! You don’t have to enroll full time, but you can commit to a class. This will prepare you to rightly divide and apply God’s truth to everyday life – something that will benefit the single years and beyond.
Jackie had the privilege of being raised in a pastor’s home where she was personally mentored by her mother. She has a passion for teaching and encouraging young ladies throughout their teenage years.
She and her husband, Chris, serve the Lord together at LVBC and currently have four children, Robby, Lauren, Daniel and Matthew.